Many times we make the mistake of looking back at lots of good memories and think that those days are over. Ecclesiastes 7:10 states Do not say, “Why were the old days better than these?” For it is not wise to ask such questions. I think that verse is pretty self explanatory. The only reason today isn’t as good as “the old days” is because that’s what we have decided is going to be our truth. Maybe bad experiences and changes in the lives of our friends and ourselves make it not possible to relive our former days, but that just means we need to re-create good memories.
One of the key aspects to creating good memories is setting boundaries in our work lives. Some people never create any more good memories because they work all the time. There needs to be a balance between your work and social life. No one wants to get to end of their life and say, “I’m so glad I worked 7 days a week and we got to live in a large home and have fancy cars. I never actually spent time with my friends or family, but at least I created a family at work with my coworkers!” One thing we need to remember is that work is for work, and fun is for fun.
Learning how to say no to overtime because you need to spend time with your family is vital for your own sanity. While the Bible does say, “If anyone will not work, neither shall he eat,” it also says, [paraphrased] “He who doesn’t provide for his family is worse than an infidel.” That verse is not just talking about money, it’s also talking about providing love and time. Life is not about how much you have, its about how much you do with what you have.
Another key aspect to creating more good times is learning how to be the initiator of fun. People won’t coming to your house asking you to hangout with them, unless you’re Britney Spears or something, it just doesn’t happen. Take the initiative to think of ideas of what to do, create an event and invite people to come. Your life is only boring because you’re making it that way! Boredom may not seem like a big deal, but it’s actually the prerequisite to depression; it’s a HUGE deal!
There are too many things going on in the world to be bored; young women are being trafficked into the sex trade, Christians are beheaded almost every single day in Muslim countries simply because they believe in Christ, and children living in third world countries are starving to death because they do not have any parents or anyone to care for them. Sometimes creating a good memory means to spend time with and love a person who doesn’t know how to love him/herself, that would be a good memory right there!
Take some time today and remember the good ol days, but not so that you can complain about how things will never be that good again, but for the purpose of creating new memories that will surpass the goodness of your former days.
Follow Ernesto Aragon on WordPress.com